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1. Instinct and emotion trump pure reason

本能和情感胜过纯粹的理性

This is the hardest thing for some people to learn and then accept. Sometimes, one spouse is often right despite what may seem wrongful reasoning, irrational demands, emotional appeals. Reason alone is not enough and leads you down wrong paths. Sometimes you really have to listen to your spouse and follow his or her requests, then ask the questions later.

对一些人来说，学习然后接受是较困难的事情。有时候，配偶的一方尽管有着看似错误的推理、非理性的诉求、情感诉求，却常常是正确的。只有理性是不够的，会把你领向错误的道路。有时候你真的要听你的配偶的话，遵循他或她的要求，然后在稍后问问题。

2. Well, do you miss the chase?

好吧，你错过追求了吗？

More to the point, if you’ve stopped chasing your wife, you’ve lost a step yourself. If you’ve stopped exciting her with your jokes, actions and ideas, you need fresh material. It’s your job to keep her excited about you and where you’re going together in life.

说得更确切一些，如果你停止了追求你的妻子，那你已经走错一步了。如果你不再用笑话、行动和主义来让她兴奋，那你需要新料。让她保持对你和你们在生活中将要一起度过的地方的兴奋是你的工作。

Your wife is a different woman every day. Make things exciting by wooing her like you want to win her. Try something new once in a while. The same goes for those of you with husbands!

你的妻子每天都是一个不同的女人。通过像你想要赢得她一样追求她来让事情变得让人兴奋。每段时间尝试些新的东西。这同样适用于你和丈夫们的那些。

3. Doesn’t the sex get bad?

性没有变坏吗？

If you let it, for sure it does. If either of you let things get stale in any part of your relationship—especially this one—it can really bring down the enjoyment factor.

如果你需要，那它确实需要。如果你们任意一个把你们关系中的任何部分变得弄僵—尤其是这种—它会真的减少享乐因子。

Here’s a novel idea: separate for a few days each month and don’t touch each other at all. When you’re back in the saddle, it’s gooood.

这有一个新颖的观点：每月分开一些天，一点儿都不要碰彼此。当你重整旗鼓后，一切都会变得美好。

4. Patience isn’t a virtue; it’s earned.

耐心并不是一种美德；它是赢得的。

Patience is the only way you can get past all the frustrations that can pile up when you take two people with different personalities, hormones, cultures, languages, worldviews, types of hygiene, ways or organizing lifeand so on and put them together in one house.

耐心是让你通过在你们两个有着不同个性、激素、文化、语言、世界观、各类卫生、方式或组织生活等等的人并把它们放在一个房子内时时积累的所有沮丧的方法。

Meditate, pray, take a walk around the block. Play the long game. Do whatever you have to do to be patient with your partner and with yourself. You will prevail over your foibles and get over the silly things that cause you to argue and become frustrated.

冥想、祈祷、绕着街区散步。从长计议。与你的伴侣、与你自己耐心做你必须要做的事情。你会你的弱点和克服引起你争论并变得沮丧的愚蠢的事情。

5. Never settle or backslide.

永远不要停留或倒退

Once you do, your relationship starts a slow death. Maintain the high standards for yourself you had when you met—and impressed—each other and fell in love.

一旦你这样做了，你们的关系会慢慢死去。维持你们相见—彼此印象深刻以及坠入爱河时你有过的高标准。

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